The iConnected parent: staying connected to your college kids (and beyond) while letting them grow up

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With blackberries, cell phones, and nonstop email keeping parents and kids connected in the college years and early adulthood, many parents are wondering, How much is too much? When is it right to help and when is it better to step away? InThe iConnected Parent, a psychology professor and a New York Times journalist provide invaluable advice for this increasingly complicated transitional time, showing parents how to stay connected with their kids in a healthy, helpful, noninvasive way.“Just let go!” That’s what parents have been told to do when their kids go to college. But in our speed-dial culture, with BlackBerries and even Skype, parents and kids are now more than ever in constant contact. Today’s iConnected parents say they are closer to their kids than their parents were to them—and this generation of families prefers it that way. Parents are their children’s mentors, confidants, and friends—but is this good for the kids? Are parents really letting go—and does that matter?Dr. Barbara Hofer, a Middlebury College professor of psychology, and Abigail Sullivan Moore, a journalist who has reported on college and high school trends for theNew York Times, answer these questions and more in their groundbreaking, compelling account of both the good and the bad of close communication in the college years and beyond. An essential assessment of the state of parent-child relationships in an age of instant communication, The iConnected Parent goes beyond sounding the alarm about the ways many young adults are failing to develop independence to describe the healthy, mutually fulfilling relationships that can emerge when families grow closer in our wired world.Communicating an average of thirteen times a week, parents and their college-age kids are having a hard time letting go. Hofer’s research and Moore’s extensive reporting reveal how this trend is shaping families, schools, and workplaces, and the challenge it poses for students with mental health and learning issues. Until recently, students handled college on their own, learning life’s lessons and growing up in the process. Now, many students turn to their parents for instant answers to everyday questions.“My roommate’s boyfriend is here all the time and I have no privacy! What should I do?” “Can you edit my paper tonight? It’s due tomorrow.” “What setting should I use to wash my jeans?”And Mom and Dad are not just the Google and Wikipedia for overcoming daily pitfalls; Hofer and Moore have discovered that some parents get involved in unprecedented ways, phoning professors and classmates, choosing their child’s courses, and even crossing the lines set by university honor codes with the academic help they provide. Hofer and Moore offer practical advice, from the years before college through the years after graduation, on how parents can stay connected to their kids while giving them the space they need to become independent adults.Cell phones and laptops don’t come with parenting instructions. The iConnected Parentis an invaluable guide for any parent with a child heading to or already on campus.
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table_of_contents iParenting -- The electronic tether? : communication between today's college students and their parents -- Can college kids grow up on an electronic tether? -- What colleges and universities say when iParenting crosses the line -- Conflicts that kids feel about being so close -- The iParents' side of being so involved -- Moms and dads, sons and daughters : styles of communicating -- Students with learning issues and medical concerns : an iParenting challenge -- Mental health issues at college : a challenge for all iParents -- iParenting in the post-college years -- How iParents can stay close but let their kids grow up.
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title The iConnected parent : staying connected to your college kids (and beyond) while letting them grow up
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title_full The iConnected parent : staying connected to your college kids (and beyond) while letting them grow up / Barbara K. Hofer and Abigail Sullivan Moore
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title_sort iconnected parent staying connected to your college kids and beyond while letting them grow up
title_sub staying connected to your college kids (and beyond) while letting them grow up