A bittersweet season: caring for our aging parents-- and ourselves

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Just a few of the vitally important lessons in caring for your aging parent—and yourself—from Jane Gross in A Bittersweet SeasonAs painful as the role reversal between parent and child may be for you, assume it is worse for your mother or father, so take care not to demean or humiliate them.Avoid hospitals and emergency rooms, as well as multiple relocations from home to assisted living facility to nursing home, since all can cause dramatic declines in physical and cognitive well-being among the aged. Do not accept the canard that no decent child sends a parent to a nursing home. Good nursing home care, which supports the entire family, can be vastly superior to the pretty trappings but thin staffing of assisted living or the solitude of being at home, even with round-the-clock help. Important FactsEvery state has its own laws, eligibility standards, and licensing requirements for financial, legal, residential, and other matters that affect the elderly, including qualification for Medicare. Assume anything you understand in the state where your parents once lived no longer applies if they move.Many doctors will not accept new Medicare patients, nor are they legally required to do so, especially significant if a parent is moving a long distance to be near family in old age.An adult child with power of attorney can use a parent’s money for legitimate expenses and thus hasten the spend-down to Medicaid eligibility. In other words, you are doing your parent no favor—assuming he or she is likely to exhaust personal financial resources—by paying rent, stocking the refrigerator, buying clothes, or taking him or her to the hairdresser or barber.
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subject_facet Adult children of aging parents -- Family relationships -- United States, Aging parents -- Care -- United States, Gross, Jane -- Family
table_of_contents The early heroic rush -- The myth of assisted living -- The vestiges of family medicine -- A job for professionals -- The best doctors money can buy -- September eleventh -- September twelfth -- The biology, sociology, and psychology of aging -- A nursing home thanksgiving -- The Make-A-Wish Foundation -- Follow the money -- Therapeutic fibs -- Cruel sorting -- As complicated as a Rubik's cube -- The time for talking -- N-O-W -- Dying days -- Orphans.
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title A bittersweet season : caring for our aging parents-- and ourselves
title_display A bittersweet season : caring for our aging parents and ourselves
title_full A Bittersweet Season Caring for Our Aging Parents---And Ourselves, A bittersweet season : caring for our aging parents and ourselves / Jane Gross, A bittersweet season [electronic resource] : caring for our aging parents-- and ourselves / Jane Gross
title_short A bittersweet season :
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