Forced to be family: a guide for living with sinister sisters, drama mamas, and infuriating in-laws
You can survive the "kitchen wars"?and live in peace with your family
"My sisters-in-law couldn't stand me. I was really hurt when my kids weren't mentioned in their grandmother's obituary because they weren't 'full-blooded' family."
"My mom is always giving advice, always telling me to do such and such when she doesn't do it herself. If my husband and I have a fight, she takes his side!"
"My sister did call me a week later to apologize but proceeded to tell me everything that was wrong with me, my husband, and my children."
Sound familiar? There's nothing new or unusual about conflict between mothers, sisters, and other female family members?but that doesn't make it any less painful or destructive. Adding to the hurt of relational abuse within the family is the permanent nature of the relationship: you can sever relations with an abusive friend, but you can't stop being the sister/daughter/niece of an abusive relative. Does that mean that there's no way out?
In Forced to Be Family, you'll discover how to determine whether a female family member is being abusive, recognize the sources of that abuse, and break the vicious cycle that keeps the abuse alive. You don't have to choose between accepting abuse and "making a scene." This insightful, reassuring guide gives you the strategies and understanding you need to reestablish warm and loving relationships with the women who will always be closest to you.
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|physical||ix, 261 p. ; 24 cm.|
|publisher||John Wiley & Sons, Inc.,|
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|subject_facet||Families, Women -- Family relationships|
|table_of_contents||Females in the family way -- A tale of two sisters -- The kitchen wars : relational aggression between female relatives -- The female family clique -- Hardwired to care : the kin-keepers -- Men are like bricks, women are like mortar -- Competition : a help or a hurt? -- How true, and for whom? -- Friend vs. female family feuds -- Mothers, sisters, and daughters -- Motherhood, revisited -- Distressing daughters -- Sweetly sinister sisters -- In-laws and others -- Mothers and sisters, by law -- Daughtering, the in-law way -- Not quite family, definitely ra -- Family, more or less: extended, extra, estranged -- Carebearing and carewearing -- Really forced to be family: divorced -- Connected, caring, or coping -- The female family maintenance plan -- The transformation treatment plan -- A time to act -- Special strategies for mother or sister -- Special solutions for in-laws and exes -- Relative RA : what a therapist has to say -- Turning relational aggression into relational affection.|
|title||Forced to be family : a guide for living with sinister sisters, drama mamas, and infuriating in-laws|
|title_display||Forced to be family : a guide for living with sinister sisters, drama mamas, and infuriating in-laws|
|title_full||Forced to be family : a guide for living with sinister sisters, drama mamas, and infuriating in-laws / Cheryl Dellasega|
|title_short||Forced to be family :|
|title_sort||forced to be family a guide for living with sinister sisters, drama mamas, and infuriating in-laws|
|title_sub||a guide for living with sinister sisters, drama mamas, and infuriating in-laws|