How to keep house while drowning: a gentle approach to cleaning and organizing

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2022.
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An NPR Best Book of the Year | USA TODAY Bestseller This revolutionary approach to cleaning and organizing helps free you from feeling ashamed or overwhelmed by a messy home.If you’re struggling to stay on top of your to-do list, you probably have a good reason: anxiety, fatigue, depression, ADHD, or lack of support. For therapist KC Davis, the birth of her second child triggered a stress-mess cycle. The more behind she felt, the less motivated she was to start. She didn’t fold a single piece of laundry for seven months. One life-changing realization restored her sanity—and the functionality of her home: You don’t work for your home; your home works for you. In other words, messiness is not a moral failing. A new sense of calm washed over her as she let go of the shame-based messaging that interpreted a pile of dirty laundry as “I can never keep up” and a chaotic kitchen as “I’m a bad mother.” Instead, she looked at unwashed clothes and thought, “I am alive,” and at stacks of dishes and thought, “I cooked my family dinner three nights in a row.” Building on this foundation of self-compassion, KC devised the powerful practical approach that has exploded in popularity through her TikTok account, @domesticblisters. The secret is to simplify your to-do list and to find creative workarounds that accommodate your limited time and energy. In this book, you’ll learn exactly how to customize your cleaning strategy and rebuild your relationship with your home, including: -How to see chores as kindnesses to your future self, not as a reflection of your worth -How to start by setting priorities -How to stagger tasks so you won’t procrastinate -How to clean in quick bursts within your existing daily routine -How to use creative shortcuts to transform a room from messy to functional With KC’s help, your home will feel like a sanctuary again. It will become a place to rest, even when things aren’t finished. You will move with ease, and peace and calm will edge out guilt, self-criticism, and endless checklists. They have no place here.

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Davis, KC Narrator, Author
Martin, Dr. Raquel Narrator
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9781668002841
9781797143729
9781668002858

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From the Book - First Simon Element hardcover edition.

Care tasks are morally neutral
Kindness to future you
For all the self-help rejects
Gentle skill building: The five things tidying method
Gentle self-talk: Mess has no inherent meaning
Care tasks are functional
Gentle self-talk: find the compassionate observer
Organized is not the same as tidy
Susie with depression
Gentle skill building: Setting functional priorities
Women and care tasks
Gentle skill building: Laundry
You can't save the rain forest if you're depressed
Drop the plastic balls
Gentle skill building: Doing the dishes
When you don't have kids
When it's hard to shower
Caring for your body when you hate it
Gentle self-talk: "I am allowed to be human"
Good enough is perfect
Gentle skill building: Changing bedsheets
Rest is a right, not a reward
Division of labor: the rest should be fair
Gentle skill building: Bathrooms
Gentle skill building: A system for keeping your car clean
When your body doesn't cooperate
Contributing is morally neutral
Cleaning and parental trauma
Critical family members
Rhythms over routines
Gentle skill building: Maintaining a space
My favorite ritual: Closing duties
Skill deficit versus support deficit
Outsourcing care tasks is morally neutral
Exercise sucks
Your weight is morally neutral
Food is morally neutral
Getting back into rhythm
You deserve a beautiful Sunday.

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