The all-or-nothing marriage: how the best marriages work

Preface: Panic in Evanston

Part one. Marriage today

Temperamental but thrilling

Part two. Historical perspective

The pragmatic marriage

From pragmatism to love

From love to self-expression

Part three. The all-or-nothing marriage

Personal fulfillment and marital commitment: the détente

Marriage at the summit

For richer or poorer

Part four. Toward stronger marriages

For better or worse

Lovehacking

Going all in

Recalibrating

The marital buffet.