In your power: react less, regain control, raise others

Cover

Title Page

Copyright Page

Contents

Introduction

Part I Be the Thermostat (Not the Thermometer)

Chapter 1 From Out of Your Power to In Your Power

What Happens When You Are Kicked Out of Your Power?

Three Power Derailers: Overcome Your Hardwiring to Be in Your Power

Turning a Vicious Cycle into a Virtuous One

Chapter 2 From Chaos to Control

The 50% Rule

How to Begin Accessing the Portals

Part II Portals to Be In Your Power

Chapter 3 Precision: From Instinctive to Intentional

The Three Questions for Creating New Outcomes When Out of Your Power

Who Do You Need to Show Up as in Order to Move the Situation in That Direction?

Bring Your Horizon Point into Your Every Day

Chapter 4 Perspective: From Casualty to Creator

You Can't Grow Past Your Beliefs, But You Can Change Them

Your Ability Is Infinite if You Keep Cultivating It

Get a 3D Perspective on the Situation

You Want to See the Hologram of Any Scenario You're Struggling With

Chapter 5 Physiology: From Hijack to Natural High

Return to a State of Calm

"Feeling Is Healing"

Fill Yourself Back Up!

Chapter 6 Purpose: From Your Small Game to Your Big Game

Playing Your Small Game versus Your Big Game

Finding Your Purpose

Shift Your Focus to Those You're Serving

Be the Champion and Steward of Your Beneficiaries

Chapter 7 Psyche: From React to Reclaim

The Stories You Tell Determine the Quality of Your Life

You Have the Power to Choose a New Story

Why You Chose Your Story

Change Your Lead Story into a Life Story

You Can Own the Narrative of Your Life

Assign Your Story to a Part of You

You Can Move beyond Your Storyline

Chapter 8 Proficiency: From Invisible to Invaluable

Be Confident-and Objective-about Your Proficiency.

Part III Portals to Use Your Interpersonal Power for the Good of All

Chapter 9 Persuasion: From Unheard to Undeniable

Persuasion Pitfall #1: Asking, Not Aligning

Appeal to Both Their Business and Personal Interests

Persuasion Pitfall #2: From Single Conversation to Stakeholder Campaign

Persuasion Pitfall #3: Not Clearly Providing a Framework

Persuasion Pitfall #4 Focusing on Past Achievements to the Exclusion of Future Ones

Persuasion Pitfall #5: Not Making It Easy for Your Decision Maker to Implement Your Idea

Chapter 10 Partnership: From My Problem to Our Solution

You Want to Transfer the Ownership of the Problem

Make Them an Active Part of the Process

See Yourself as the Steward of the Whole Scenario

Infuse the Situation with Light

Chapter 11 Protection: From Silent Suffering to Sovereignty

Boundaries to Protect Your Time, Attention, and Energy

Proactive Boundaries to Prevent Overwhelm at Work

Set Boundaries to Carve Out Time you Need

Use Active Questions to Take Back Control over Intrusive People

Reactive Boundaries

Protection beyond Boundaries: Putting Up Barriers

The Special Problem of Narcissists

The Special Case of Harassment

Chapter 12 Powerful Truth: From Angry to Authentic

Reclaim the Definition of Words so They Don't Hurt You

Chapter 13 People: From Alone to Amplified

We Are Wired to Co-Regulate

People Hold Up a Mirror for Us

The Power of the Posse

People Can Give You Feedback to See Your Blind Spots

Seek People Who Can Catalyze Your Power

Seek Out Mentors, Sponsors, and Allies

Chapter 14 Position: From Overlooking Your Power to Owning It

Bring Consciousness into the Use of Power in Your Position

Focus on Your Why

Be Successful at Using Your Power

Use the Leverage You Already Have but May Be Overlooking

Leverage Your Power.

Create the Weather on Your Team

Growing Power in Others Grows Your Power

Become a Sponsor

Engage in Allyship

Leverage the Power of Platform

Part IV Create a Ripple Effect

Chapter 15 Power Is a Lifestyle

Acknowledgments

Index

EULA.